For divorcing parents, one of the most difficult conversations they will ever have is when they tell their children that they are ending their marriage. How this conversation is handled will have a profound impact, so parents should consider planning on what they will say together. We compiled a list of tips that will help make the path forward easier.
Gently Breaking the News to Your Children
Although it may be difficult for you to collaborate with your spouse at the moment, it is crucial to deliver this news as a parenting team. Regardless of the state of your marriage, you will both continue to be their parents, which is why having this conversation as a family is important. You should also choose the right time to tell them, preferably before the weekend begins, so they have some time to process this information and think of any questions they may want to ask.
You and your spouse should decide what you plan to tell your children. You do not necessarily have to follow a script, but you should agree on which key points you wish to express. Most importantly, you should agree not to blame each other for the divorce. You may feel strongly about who you believe is responsible for the end of your marriage, whether it be an affair or financial troubles, but these details will not do your children any good. Keep it simple and tell them that your marriage is no longer working and you believe you will be happier apart.
Here are some additional tips:
- Reassure your children that you love them and that they have nothing to do with your decision to get a divorce.
- Tell your children what they can expect to remain the same and what will change. You may not have many answers for them at this point, so this will probably be a point you have to revisit.
- Let them know that their reactions and feelings to this news are all valid.
- Invite your children to ask as many questions as they may have, but do not pressure them. They might not know what to ask right away, so let them know they can ask you anything at any time.
- Give them plenty of time to adjust and cope with the news.
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